Out with the old, in with the new… ish. As we constantly battle with technology and how much is too much, how to handle that, where to draw the line, we must consider bringing back a tried and true method. My guest today, Heleniq, shares her expertise on quality time and technology.
Sometimes you just need to take it back to the good ol’ days…
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We are living in interesting times and possibly a time that will forever mark the evolution of our species. With Rhinos among the latest array of wild animals becoming extinct, natural disasters on the increase and adapt or die media blasts, it’s clear our planet is changing. Technology is the father of this change, and there are numerous reasons to hold this father at a distance but also a few that call him closer, especially for children of the coming age.
When checking in my bag at the airport the other day in Schipol airport on route to Australia, the lady I called over to help me, said I would have to learn to check-in my bag electronically myself.
She pointed to the machine holding my bag about to issue an electronic ticket, affectionately and said, “this is my new colleague” and assured me that the machine knew that my bag needed to be routed directly to Australia. Here was me, thinking I was smarter than the machine and that it couldn’t possibly know how to send my bag to the final destination.
Children are living in this new world, digital nomads, everyone they drink coffee, laptops gadgets and machines are their new friends, peers, and playmates and of course, you already know this.
The only problem is, children probably have not developed the ‘polarity ‘ in their thinking yet to have the kind of love-hate relationship with technology that adults are soon developing and this is why you are their parents.
A little wiser about the impact of too much tech, you are their guide in this new world, hopefully reassuring them about the greater game of life which must include a healthy life and tech balance. This is what you must teach them. If you do not, the world out there will bring nothing but persuasive messaging about the ease and convenience of it all, and later they crash from symptoms of overload.
As a clinician – a clinical psychologist involved in various intensive family harmony meltdowns over the years – positive discipline is always the medicine together with quality time.
Kids need boundaries to feel safe, boundaries about all things that can damage or hurt them when they occur.
This is why learning to play the greater game of life must involve positive discipline around technology. This, however, is not enough; we must provide a healthy alternative, and nature and quality time will do it every time.
If you need some convincing, let me assure you that technology can become a detriment because it slows down social skill and life skill learning, increases anxiety and depression, distraction, narcissism, and most importantly it reinforces the greatest false reality of all – instant gratification.
Millennials show lesser abilities to stick to their jobs, the game of life, the challenge in relationships, and what with fast food as a precursor, it’s obvious to see that they don’t believe older adults when we say, “Things take time.”
It’s time to try another approach, quality time!
Fay and Kersey agree the best reward for a kid is time with the parents. That quality time is key to a happy, well-behaved child and if each parent spent 15 minutes connecting with a child every day one on one, many behavioral changes occur especially if you do something your child wants to do during that time. Whisper in their ear how wonderful they are, how much you love them. “It’s the best investment you can make in your child.”
Find out the real reason kids crave technology and what you can do about it in a free discovery call with Heleniq A by emailing support@heleniqa.com
Heleniq is passionate about women. Believing they are leading a new paradigm of leadership for society, she has advocated deeper look into femininity from her student days where she volunteered for South African rape survivors. She presents her insights at conferences in Liverpool, Athens, Holland, India, South Africa, and Cyprus.
She also uses rhythm to elevate women’s’ creative mystery, she deepens her loyalty to women with a continuous study of ‘Feminine Power’, Art of Love and Soulmate Series, Alpha females and women’s’ entrepreneurship with world-famous feminine thought leaders and femininity experts.
For this, she hosts the Women Of Truth X factor group on Facebook, LinkedIn and hosts international Women of truth Conferences and project.
Heleniq Argyrou www.heleniqa.com
Peak Performance Trainer, Heartchild Family Ultimate Peak Performance Program Speaker
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