Heleniq A graces our space again with a wonderfully enlightening topic of stretching yourself spiritually, going beyond initial reactions. I know I could always use some growth in this area, so her words have brought me comfort and awareness. You’re sure to take away tidbits from this post.
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For me probably the most important thing about it is the radical change the brain goes through.
These changes are the focus of many studies these days in the field of neurobiology, neurogenesis and brainwave adjustments measured on EEGs. There are three very powerful things we can do easily when we are spiritually fit. These same things are extremely difficult to manage let alone sustain ‘easily’ when we are not spiritually fit.
Here they are:
1. Get really comfortable with the unknown and or invisible, which equals trust. Some call this – Living in 5Dimensional reality.
2. Handling bad attitudes from other people or negative vibes with objectivity a balanced mind or what some call ‘equanimity’
3. Achieving greatness or accessing your potential and optimizing it.
So many ways exist nowadays to develop spiritually, the only question is what works best?
There are many ways to develop your spiritual focus but what’s most important for parents is the calmness of mind state that that focus brings. Being inside the unknown really helps because no one knows what suffering and challenges your child will face, so it’s probably central to your success as a parent that you learn to handle this helplessness without freaking out or over disciplining, under caring, or even ignoring the real dangers your child faces.
Often parents get so side-tracked onto micromanaging small issues they feel reflect a disrespect when in fact is almost a cry for help…like they are revealing a deeper inability to deal with the unknown out there, the way the world will shape your child over time.
What your child needs to learn is that you cannot save him/her from everything, accept this, and start seeing the beauty of life.
Harnessing the 2nd quality of equanimity, learning how to observe frustrating behavior teaches you to respond instead of reacting – probably the very reason God designed families and parents in the first place. 😉 Almost like a crash course in this kind of mindfulness that makes guiding a child lovingly in life possible, equanimity is a saving grace when the alternative is to be constantly fighting and breaking down, shaming and blaming your child for all s/he cannot do yet.
It’s pointless really.
Thirdly, the skill or rather spiritual muscle of expecting more from ourselves is so valuable mainly because it totally supersedes the lull and rut we can fall into with repetition and the daily demands of life. Achieving greatness or accessing your potential and optimizing it is not actually easy – but that’s only in the beginning. Once you get a little momentum, you’ll see that setting a slightly higher standard, say for example to stop shouting at your child can fast become a better feeling you have about yourself and your ability to practice this daily is nothing short of spiritual practice in going beyond your impulsive reactions. It takes finesse, higher values, and emotional intelligence that can benefit all areas of your life.
Also, it is entirely possible to do!
Without these skills, we are a total wreck lets face it. Shouting, screaming, demanding, longing for what doesn’t exist, and often totally distorting the reality of what our child is capable of. Now it’s your turn, try one of these points of focus this week. Time to flex that Spiritual muscle everyone and if you need any help, you know where to find me!
Heleniq is passionate about women. Believing they are leading a new paradigm of leadership for society, she has advocated deeper look into femininity from her student days where she volunteered for South African rape survivors. She presents her insights at conferences in Liverpool, Athens, Holland, India, South Africa, and Cyprus.
She also uses rhythm to elevate women’s’ creative mystery, she deepens her loyalty to women with a continuous study of ‘Feminine Power’, Art of Love and Soulmate Series, Alpha females and women’s’ entrepreneurship with world-famous feminine thought leaders and femininity experts.
For this, she hosts the Women Of Truth X factor group on Facebook, LinkedIn and hosts international Women of truth Conferences and project.
Heleniq Argyrou www.heleniqa.com
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